BDSM in and out of the bedroom.

It’s strange, but our society has almost accepted the fact of having kinks in the bedroom. Even if it still isn’t publicly acknowledged, everyone still knows about it and has accepted that there are kinkers out there. 

But what people still find strange is that what you define yourself in the bedroom can also have an affect on your daily life. Those who have a 24/7 BDSM relationship it is obviously the case, so I’m not really talking about that. Most people will think they can separate who they are in and out of the bedroom, and maybe they can, but with certain things I’m not so sure. 

I feel like Dominance and submission can be two thay are easily swapped from the bedroom to the outside world. Though of course, some will remain constant like a true Dominant person can one heck of a Dom. 

But on the other hand…can you really turn off your Sadist or Masochist side?

Oh yes, you can turn it down. Especially, I feel, if you’re a Sadist. You look like a creep if you like watching other people in pain or uncomfortable. 

But really, I’m here to talk about Masochism. Since I am a Masochist, I know more on this subject. I am not a total masochist who goes out of her way to feel pain. But I believe I do enjoy it, in and out of bed. 

Of course, I’m still human. I want happy endings and love and good things to happen to me. But I dont mind feeling pain or feeling hurt. Yes, it’s obviously painful when someone breaks your heart or rejects you or ignores you, but the masochist in me almost relishes these feelings because it makes me feel alive. I don’t ever not want to feel pain. But I know in the end it will make me stronger and I’ll be happier at the end. 

Also another way I see my masochism both in and out of the bedroom is that I never ever want anyone else to be in pain. I will try my hardest to take away their pain or put myself in the way so they don’t feel full impact. 

And I also feel the feelings of others, that’s how I relate. So if someone feels annoyed or sad or depressed, I will also. It’s not fun sometimes, but it helps me to help them.

Also, I’m definitely not just fully Masochist. It’s the one I identify with, but I’m not super extreme.

Anyway, I thought this was kind of cool to think about. Hope you do too. 

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