BDSM terminology A, B, C.

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Abrasion-Any form of sensation play involving stroking or brushing the skin with rough, textured objects such as sandpaper, emery boards, and the like.

Aftercare-The time after a BDSM scene or play session in which the participants calm down, discuss the previous events and their personal reactions to them, and slowly come back in touch with reality.

Image result for anal beadsAge play- the act of one person treating another person or acting themselves as someone who is younger or older than they really are. This is both sexual and nonsexual.

Anal Beads – A set of strung beads used to insert into the anus to stimulate the anal nerves as foreplay or to cause orgasm.

Anal hook-A smooth, blunt metal hook, typically about an inch thick and six inches long, with a small loop on one end. The shorter side of the hook is inserted into the anus, aImage result for anal hooknd a rope tied to the loop on the other end can be tied to an overhead fixture to force the wearer to kneel with his or her butt in the air, or can be secured to the wrists to bind the wearer’s hands. Some anal hooks inclide a ball on the end that is inserted.

Anal torture- the act of inflicting pain on the anus. This does not necessarily mean that it is exactly torturous, but..their is pain.

Anal sex-any sexual act involving the anus. (kind of obvious)

Animal Role Playing – Games in which one or more partners, usually the submissive, takes on the role of an animal. The ‘animal’ may imitate animal behavior, wear items such as collars, leads, bridles and so on, or carry out tasks associated with animal behavior.
Image result for arm leg sleeves in bdsmArm/Leg Sleeves-Play which involves binding the arms or legs of the submissive in restriction.

 

 

 

Auctioned off-Dominant auctions off the slave to the highest bidder  (temporarily) Note: This is illegal in some places (Also, I wouldn’t recommend this even if it does slightly turn you on.)

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Image result for ball gag bdsmBall gag- A gag consisting of a ball, usually made of rubber, which is attached to a strap. The ball is placed in the mouth and the strap is placed around the head to hold it securely in place.

 

 

Ball tie- A specific form of bondage in which the person is bound in a seated position with the knees up, the head bent down over the knees, and the hands behind the back.

Bastindo- Any form of pain play involving inflicting pain on the soles of the feet, often by striking, cropping, or whipping them.

Bathroom control- the Dominant restricts or takes control over the submissive’s bodily functions through the use of techniques such as catheterization, enemas, diapers, rubber pants, and possibly golden showers. Examples in play: House training a puppy, age play, and golden shower play.

Image result for bears paw glove bdsmBear’s paw– Gloves used for sensation play which have blunt metal spikes or dull hooks at the end of each fingertip.

 

 

Being Serviced-Dominant tells the submissive how he wants to be pleased sexually.

Belting- The practice of striking a person with a belt or with any long, narrow, belt-like strap

Image result for birch bdsmBirch-An implement used for striking, consisting of a bundle of light, thin wooden rods, typically made of birch.

Black sheet party-An orgy for people into BDSM sex

Blindfolds – Play which involves temporarily blocking the submissive’s sense of sight. This type of play is essential when everyday objects are used to give unexpected sensations.    Note:   Do not make the blindfold too tight as to put pressure on the eyeballs.  Although some people take blindfolding in stride, it can have unpredictable psychological effects and be extremely frightening for some people.

Body worship-Any practice or activity which involves venerating a person’s body, often as an act of submission by a submissive partner. Body worship may involve actions such as kissing, massaging, bathing, sucking, or otherwise touching a person’s body or part of it.

Bondage-Acts involving the physical restraint of a partner.

Bondage Bunny- A person who enjoys being tied or bound.

Boot worship- A specific type of shoe fetishism centered around boots, in which the submissive partner may kiss, lick, polish, or otherwise adulate the dominant’s boots.

Bottom-one who receives physical sensation from a top in a scene; the one-done-to rather than the do-er

Breast bondage-The act of tying breasts so that they are either flattened against the chest or so that they bulge.

Breast torture-pain invoving the breasts and/or the nipples.

Breath Control-The dominant controls the submissive’s breathing.Other examples would be strangling, which is compression of the neck/throat area to prevent the flow of oxygen to the brain. (Be very cautious with this…as well as with everything else I am naming and will name).

Brown Showers (Scat) –   The practice of play involving a fetish for including human (or animal) feces. (Do this wisely, if you try this. Definately more research needed.)

Butt plug-Much like a dildo, but pear-shaped with a flared base. The flared base prevents the plug from being lost in the anal cavity; the pear Image result for variety of butt plugsshape helps hold the plug in place. They come in a variety of sizes; some can vibrate.Image result for variety of butt plugs

   

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Image result for bdsm cagesCages – Most common is the use of a large animal cage.  Construction of a cage can be of wood, steel, fencing material.  Used to confine the submissive, for play or punishment.

 

 

 

Image result for cane bdsmCaning – Mostly made of bamboo, this whip is by far the most painful. Care should be used, as the welts from caning are slow to rise, and blood can be accidentally drawn if not in constant monitoring. Caning should be limited to the fleshy part of the buttocks, and nowhere else on the body. This can be very dangerous , and is not for the novice.

Catheterization –  A flexible tube used in medical procedures generally inserted into the area controlled by the bladder.   This procedure is most often used for “control” scenes.

Cells or Closets – Play which involves locking the submissive in a cell-type device and / or closet.   Usually as a form of punishment.   Not recommended for claustrophobics obviously.

Image result for chains bdsmChains – A strong metal type of bondage material used in bondage scenes.   Chains are less flexible and potentially more dangerous than other types of bondage material

 

 

 

Chastity- A form of erotic sexual denial or orgasm denial whereby a person is prevented from access to, or stimulation of, their genitals, save at the whim or choice of their partner, usually by means of a device (called a chastity belt or sometimes for men a cock cage) that prevents contact and is controlled by means of a lock by the partner.

Chauffeuring – Requiring one’s submissive to “chauffeur” them around physically in vehicles or other types of transportation.

Chemical play- Any form of sensation play involving the use of mild irritants such as peppermint oil, menthol, Tabasco sauce, and the like to create sensation.

Choking – Compression of the carotid arteries in order to restrict air or blood flow to the brain. (careful!!!)

Cock and ball torture (CBT): Torture of the male genitals for sexual gratification.

Cock bondage- Tying or restraining the penis.

Image result for cock ringCock Ring – Rubber, metal, or leather type ring used to strap around the base of the cock and balls when soft.   Increases blood flow to the genital area during self stimulation and sex.  When released, causes minor pain during recurring blood flow.

 

Collared: Submissive or slave who is owned, usually (but certainly not exclusively) in a loving intimate relationship. A dominant may have multiple persons collared. Also: a pup’s status, as differentiated from a “stray”.

Collaring ceremony- A formal ceremony celebrating or symbolizing a commitment between a dominant and a submissive, typically during which a collar is placed around the submissive’s neck.

Contract-A written-out agreement between the dominant & submissive. It can be either formal or non, and is usually written after much negotiation by the dominant and the sub, outlining what structure, guidelines, rules and boundaries to the relationship are agreed upon by the two. It is not legally binding.

Corporal punishment- Any activity involving disciplining a person through physical means, as by spanking.

Cross dressing- Sexual arousal or gratification from wearing clothing appropriate for the opposite sex.

Cuckoldry- The practice by which a dominant takes one or more sexual partners other than his or her submissive, for the purpose of humiliating the submissive.

Image result for cuffsCuffs – A leather or metal bondage device used to restrict movement.   Usually locks around the limbs in order to place the submissive in a precarious position.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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